It would be a complete lie if I were to say that I wasn’t nervous about writing this post. As the Lord so often reminds me, I have nothing to worry about as long as I keep my eyes focused on Him. I know that it is by His power that I have the ability to write the words that I am sending out into this great big universe.
Before we get into my musings on the Scriptures, let me again state that I am in no way a Bible scholar. For one second, I do not want to pretend to be something more than what I am. I know enough to know there is a lot that I do not know.
Let's get started.
While reading the passage in Genesis, there were a couple of verses that really seemed to jump out at me.
Then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature. (Genesis 2:7)
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18)
If you know my sister Hailey and I, you know that we are completely opposite in every single way. It is amazing to think that the two of us came from the same parents. She’s an extrovert. I’m an introvert. She’s a night-owl, and I’m an early-riser. Those may seem like minute things, but we even have completely different ways of viewing the world. The very way our mind processes things is completely opposite. We constantly joke that if we were one person we would be the perfect one. We are two parts of the same whole.
If I feel that way about my sister, how much more should I be the compliment of the mate that God has for me. I should not focus on the things that make me different as flaws. I should not feel less-than because my sister does not get nervous in front of a crowd, and I do. Maybe those parts that I feel need to be “worked on” are limitations from the Lord.
The Bible tells us in Romans 12 that we are given gifts according to His grace. We are to use them to the best of our abilities. Part of becoming the best possible version of who you are in Christ is developing those specific abilities. I believe that ultimate mate will pick up the slack in the areas you are lacking. You will be “two parts of the same whole.” You will be each other’s perfect helpers.
Esther chapter one sets the stage for the rest of the book. We see King Xerxes reveling in all his glory. For 180 days, he throws what is basically a giant party to celebrate and show-off his great wealth. He wants those around him to know just how great he is. In what is most likely a drunken state, he calls for his wife Queen Vashti. He wants to show off her beauty to all the men in attendance. She refuses. Much like a two-year-old throwing a tantrum, King Xerxes boils with rage and calls to his wise men for help. They tell him he should strip her of her royal position and never allow her in his presence again.
Then when the king’s edict is proclaimed throughout all his vast realm, all the women will respect their husbands, from the least to the greatest. (Esther 1:2o)
We live in a time when “head of house” is synonymous with control. When that “control” is seen to be the man’s, people assume the wife is a doormat or she’s being abused. I am in no way trying to discount the situations where this is true. When this principle is distorted, it will lead down a very slippery slope. Women are abused physically, mentally, & sexually. Domestic violence and marital rape are very real, very heavy subjects. That is most definitely not what God intended marriage to be.
In Ephesians 5, the bible tells us that wives are supposed to submit to their husbands. This does not mean we are to cater to their every whim. We are supposed to honor them in how we dress, how speak, and how we act.
We should dress modestly. Everyone has their own convictions about what this means. What it comes down to is, we should not be trying to draw attention to ourselves. We should not want to tempt another woman’s husband in a way that we would not want our husband to be tempted. I am not discounting a man’s responsibility for his behaviors and actions. As Women of the Faith, we should do our best to build up our brothers and not be a stumbling block for them.
We should speak only from a place of love. We should not tear down another person no matter how we feel about them. It is not our place to judge. Their actions are between them and the Lord. We should not gossip. Again, it comes down to building up our fellow believers. We should want to be a safe place for others not have them running away from us.
We should act according to the Word.
Here is the main challenge for this week: get rid of excess.
Go through your stuff and get rid of that which you don’t need. An example, I realized I don’t really need twelve pairs of Toms when there are only a few pairs I actually wear.
Figure out in what way you spend the most time. I found that I spend WAY too much time watching television. It’s always on in the background. Do I really need to be following 8 or 9 series? It’s easy to pop in a movie or turn on Netflix when I’m crocheting. What about using that time to listen to worship music or a sermon instead?
I hope you enjoyed reading the introduction and my thoughts for week one. Please post comments or questions. I want to know where you are at with all of this. Again, use #prepareyourheart if you Instagram, Facebook, Tweet, or Pin. I want to see inside your journey as well as mine.
Remember next week's readings are: Ecclesiastes 4:7-12 & Esther 2.
Have a blessed week!