Working with kids has got to be one of the greatest parts of my life. They are honest to a fault.
"Miss Jess, you should get some new boots. Those pink ones aren't really working for you."
"Miss Jess, why do you have spots all over your face?"
"Miss Jess, when you laugh like that, you sound a little crazy."
They also ask questions that don't always have the simplest answers.
"Miss Jess, have you ever been in love?"
That's the kind of question that catches you off guard.
You stop, look at the second grader that asked you, and quickly try to come up with an answer that isn't too obscure.
I don't remember exactly what I said in that moment, but the question got me thinking.
Have I ever been in love?
If you go by the world's standards, then yes I have.
I have fallen for someone.
I have been completely consumed by thoughts of them.
I have wondered what they were thinking or doing every moment.
As quickly as I had fallen for them, I have had those feelings fade.
I really don't care for romantic comedies.
I feel like they totally pervert what true love is.
They give women the idea every man is basically going to be a woman.
He is going to know what you are thinking before you think it.
He is going to know your every need without you telling him.
How is that even possible when half the time we don't even know what's going on inside our own brains?
They also show men as desperate creatures that need us above anything else.
A lot of romantic comedies show an initial screw-up by the guy, and the rest of the movie is them trying desperately to win their woman back.
This journey usually leads to some huge romantic gesture that leads to him groveling and undermining himself.
As women, we complain that men aren't really manly anymore.
They need to take control of the relationship and lead.
We also complain when they act according to their nature.
How can anyone win in this situation?
The truth is no one can.
It is hard to build a lasting relationship when no one knows what their role is.
It is impossible to build something that is going to stand the test of time if it is only based on that initial attraction.
The question is: What is love?
Is it that feeling we get when we first see someone?
Is it that giddiness?
Is it that "can't-eat-can't-sleep" kind of thing?
I don't think it is.
Love is commitment.
Love is self-sacrificing.
Love is service.
Love is a choice.
"However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." (Ephesians 5:33)