I have to admit something. Sometimes I really loathe being a woman. Probably more than I actually enjoy it. I hate being told I'm too emotional. My hair and I are not the best of friends. Among other things.
Today I was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed and came across this. I wanted to keep on going and not give it a second look. Something caught my attention…
"You and I have the gift of femininity…."
The gift of femininity. I have never really stopped to think about it as a gift. If you really take the time to think about it, it really is.
We can cry and not be judged for it.
Compassion and empathy are less difficult.
We can walk through a public place and not have to worry about our purity being challenged.
We also have the ability to control this.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. (Proverbs 31:30, ESV)
If you grew up in church as a young girl, you probably heard Proverbs 31 quoted at every girls event you attended. You hear it so much that your brain shuts off. You've heard it all before and don't need another girls' leader or youth pastor preaching at you about modesty. You make sure your neckline is high enough and your legs are covered when you're at church. What about Friday or Saturday night when you are out with your friends?
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:25,26 ESV)
We are supposed to be clothing ourselves with strength and dignity. Covering ourselves is not for ourselves. It helps the men we come in contact with to conduct themselves in the way they should. I'm afraid I am making men sound weak. That is not my intention. I want women and girls to understand that their strength and worth is not in their sex-appeal. It is in the words that come out of their mouth.
We don't need to play stupid to make men feel smart. We don't need to be scantily clad to be attractive.
Be gracious and giving. Build people up instead of tearing them down. Be compassionate to everyone you meet. Love fiercely.
Be a lady.